Aidan met Amie through the computer game Minecraft.Their gaming turned into Skype conversations where they discovered other common interests.When I agree to Aidan’s request, it’s with an awareness of how questionable my judgment sounds. You magnify that with a whole set of anxiety-driven fears that are produced by the media,” says boyd.“We think of all the horrible things that could happen with strangers.I flashed on stories of predators who entrap young adults through false IDs, of adults who imagine they are IMing with a pretty Russian girl, only to discover they are corresponding with a robot, eager less for love than a credit card number. ” Teens and parents have different views of online friendships because they have different ideas of what socializing should look like, says danah boyd (who doesn't capitalize her name), author of “It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens.” More From Today: Should Kids Wear School Uniforms?Still it would be fun to have Aidan with me at the literary festival. Parents, who tend to be less comfortable with social media and other online technologies than teens, can’t help but fear that when online relationships evolve to in-person interactions, they are inherently dangerous or risky because they involve “strangers.” “As parents, we have a responsibility to protect our children.When the stakes are raised to photos or videos, teens run the risk of any images they send be spread across the Internet, to their schools or communities.
And they tend to meet new people through those people.
Teens who suffer dating abuse often go on to endure unhealthy, abusive relationships as adults later in life., “23 percent of females and 14 percent of males who ever experienced rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner, first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age.”from a dating partner every year in the United States.
Dating abuse far exceeds other types of abuse that teens face — one in three adolescents is the victim of physical, sexual, verbal or emotional abuse from a romantic partner.
Spark would even say hello to Amie via Skype whenever she walked into Aidan’s room.
“I would hear him talking to her and he would laugh and laugh,” Spark told TODAY Moms.
Spark, who wrote about the experience for Slate, says she initially didn’t like the idea of the Internet rendezvous, which her son requested when he discovered Spark was attending a literary festival in the state where his friend lived.